Childhood Trauma Resources
Childhood trauma is often overlooked, greatly misunderstood, and one of the most damaging things that can happen to a child of any age. It is also far more common than most of us realize. Encompassing everything from natural disasters, abuse, witnessing violence, medical related trauma, loss of a parent or loved one, neglect, bullying and more. The effects can last a lifetime, leading to mental illness, behavioral struggles, addiction, and cycles of trauma that can span generations.
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Childhood trauma is not something I ever expected to face in my life. Not in the way it has become a constant presence in my days. I have my degree in psychology, specializing in cognition, memory and learning… in the elderly! See my focus when I was in University was in aging and dementia. Childhood issues were not on my radar.
Then one day, approximately 15 years later, I traveled to Ethiopia and held my 10 month old son for the first time. I knew the moment we met that we were launching ourselves on a journey that we never expected.
Within a year, I was working with therapists and psychologists and psychiatrists regularly. Finding help for a child who experienced complex, prolonged trauma from infancy is extremely hard. Most of the trauma therapies focus on talk therapy, but that doesn’t work for children who have been fundamentally altered in their brain chemistry and development due to trauma.
I returned to school, taking classes in childhood mental health and development. Researching and reading everything I could find on the topic of childhood mental health. I was determined to help my son and gain a better understanding of ACEs. Something in my gut told me time was against us. This wasn’t something he would outgrow or that would pass with time. He needed help now and I was going to make sure he got it.
Trauma Tree – Understanding the Impact of Childhood Trauma
It was through courses I took in childhood trauma that the concept of the Trauma Tree came into our lives. The phrase, “at least he was too young to remember”, infuriates me. It is a lie. Completely and totally. Saying it only serves to harm trauma children even more. If more people understood the concept of the Trauma Tree, they could see how trauma harms children and leaves lasting damage.
Life with a history of trauma is hard. It is always there. A part of your every day. You can learn to deal with the triggers, but eliminating all the triggers in life is impossible. For many days are spent constantly on high alert. Trauma becomes a part of who you are and colours everything you see and do.
Life With Trauma – Living In The Shadows
One of the questions I’m often asked by struggling parents is how to know if their child had experienced childhood trauma. For adoptive families and foster families, it is very easy to simply say, “yes, trauma is part of the issue,” but the varying degrees of trauma and how they impact each child makes it very hard to quantify and define. Sadly, there are also families where there is no known trauma when behaviors and issues start to show. It is only after investigation that it turns out there has been bullying, abuse, or other traumas occurring that were not known.
Recognizing the signs of Childhood Trauma
Even for children who have experienced prolonged, complex trauma, the effect of a trauma anniversary can be pronounced. Certain dates in their trauma past may hold special significance in their minds, causing behaviors and struggles to intensify during the anniversary. For children who experienced a single traumatic event, knowing the date can help families prepare so they can offer additional supports and understanding as the anniversary draws near. But for those children with complex trauma histories, it can take years of tracking behaviors and cycles before certain anniversaries can be identified.
Trauma Time – The Impact of Trauma Anniversaries
One of the most important things a family needs to find to help them and the child cope with trauma is quality therapy. It can be hard constantly advocating for your child, especially when behaviors are intense and sadly, many therapists are not well versed in childhood trauma. But finding the right support can be life changing for a family, but most especially the child.
Tips for Keeping Your Sanity When Your Child Needs Therapy
Due to the lack of resources and supports for children with trauma history it can be very helpful to look to services that are helping veterans and adults with PTSD. Search out services that think outside of the box to find what will help the therapist really connect with the child. We tried play therapy, art therapy, but it was finally animal assisted therapy that allowed us to help my son and bring him some healing.
The Healing Power of Horses for Trauma Victims
Supporting a child with trauma history becomes an important function for all the people in the child’s life. From parents, to family members, teachers, coaches and more. Being trauma informed will help these children feel safe, build trust, and start to flourish and grow. 60% of children will experience trauma. If you work with children, being trauma informed is critical for their well-being and healing.
Tips for Supporting a Child with Trauma History
One of the biggest struggles I’ve faced as a adoptive parent of a child struggling with childhood trauma, is the pain over knowing I wasn’t there to protect him. It’s a pain that hits me at my core and can make it hard to breathe in those moments when the struggles are intense. The hurt that my son lives through daily because of what happened in his past, haunts me.
Navigating Trauma Over The Holidays
The holidays can be incredibly difficult for children with a history of trauma. The emotions, the struggles, the reminders of what has been lost, they can add up into an explosive situation making holidays and special occasions especially hard.
Trauma in the Classroom
Current research indicates that 25 to 33% of all students are struggling with trauma. In some communities where there have been natural or man-made disasters or events, that figure is even higher. This makes the role of teachers, as one of the front line workers facing childhood trauma, critical. I wish they could just focus on teaching, but mental health needs to come first before a child can learn.
Supports for children with trauma history
Parenting a child with trauma history can be an intense challenge. They often experience significant developmental delays, learning disabilities and struggles in their daily lives. Skills that other children seem to pick up naturally need to be intentionally taught to many children with trauma history. Over the years I’ve developed a number of techniques through my own research and working with some amazingly skilled therapists. Here are some of techniques that you may find helpful:
Developing a Growth Mindset can be life changing – This tool makes a huge difference
Putting it In Neutral – Overcoming Anxious and Negative Thoughts
How To Teach A Child They Can Do Hard Things (when their belief has been stripped from them by trauma)
Teaching the Importance of Making Mistakes
Developing Emotional Intelligence and Empathy
Helping a Child Cope With Death, Grief & Loss
When Halloween Frights Trigger Flight or Fight (PTSD)
Build An Anti-Anxiety Toolkit – This article goes to a fellow trauma momma’s site. We have built our own anti-anxiety toolkits and highly recommend it.
Trauma is complex. It affects our brains, which is the one organ scientists and researchers are still studying and trying to understand. Our brains are fascinating and complex. The impact trauma has on all those connections is not fully understood but progress is being made. It helps to connect with other families and parents. To join support groups. Read the work of leaders in the field. With that in mind here are even more resources to help you.
CHILDHOOD TRAUMA BOOKS
The Boy Who Was Raised as aThe Connected Child: Bring hope and healingThe Body Remembers Volume 1 and VolumeThe Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind,Trauma Through a Child’s Eyes: Awakening theA Child Called It: One Child’s CourageThe Whole-Brain Child: 12 Revolutionary Strategies toLost at School: Why Our Kids with
MORE CHILDHOOD TRAUMA RESOURCES
TED Ed talk from Nadine Burke Harris
National Child Traumatic Stress Network
Center on the Developing Child Harvard University
Early Childhood Mental Health – Childhood Trauma Tutorial
Center for the Study of Traumatic Stress
Place2Be – Childhood Mental Health in Schools UK
Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs)